Dear Abby:

The problem briefly: Our daughter (a good student at an out-of-town college) recently volunteered the information that she is a lesbian. We were stunned, since we had no inkling of this.

After discussions and correspondence on the subject, she flatly refuses any form of counseling and says that she is happy at the present time and sees no need to change.

What more can we as parents do to keep her from ruining her life? We

love her.

New Yorker

Dear New Yorker:

Why do you assume that her sexual preference will necesssarily “ruin" her life? If you love her, accept her as she is, and let her know it.

(Write Abby in care of The Plain Desiæ, Cinvekad 441143

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